Originally posted here: http://buzzvibe.tumblr.com/post/1121792992/kegels-and-g-spot-frustration

So on the heels of a bum Joyballs Single I posted my review of Female Ejaculation & the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl. This book was an eye opener for me. Hmm, that’s maybe not the best cliche to use here…

Anyway, turns out I have weak PC muscles, which I knew already, hence the need to explore vaginal exercisers. But, I learned that I’ve been doing my Kegels incorrectly, and everything is basically just a big tense mess down there. That explains my difficulty and why I’m so dependent on clitoral stimulation. I don’t mean for that to sound like it’s a bad thing or weakness on my part, but this is a personal exploration and growth path thingy I’m on, so I’ll just need to keep at it.

It’s not always easy to find time to practice stimulating my G-spot in the way I’m supposed to in order to learn how to ejaculate, though. It’s a whole set-up with mirrors, pillows, towels, toys, and a speculum (which I don’t have). Plus, I have to create a soothing environment, with no distractions and complete privacy. Yeah. See, the trouble there is that I have these things called kids and another thing called a husband. I don’t get 2-3 hours of relaxed quiet and total privacy that often.

Basically, I need to build up strength in my pelvic floor muscles, while learning to relax and let go once I finally find the time to figure out what the heck I’m doing. It will be slow going.